Yesterday, someone said to me, "you must love your work?"
I answered, yes I do, but it took some sorting. I shared how much we have to push aside to feel ok handling disappointments, as almost always, someONE is losing; sorting tensions from all sides and the unknown which creeps in as closings inch into place. Overcoming unkindnesses thrown at us, sometimes intentionally is the toughest part. And then, to remember kindness is our best choice no matter the circumstance. Developing this simple practice is what brings about the pleasure we find in continuing this tough career path.
Charles Blow wrote this after Mandela died this year and I kept the words to share:
"I like to think of it the way Zora Neale Hurston once put it: “Sometimes, I feel discriminated against, but it does not make me angry. It merely astonishes me. How can any deny themselves the pleasure of my company? It’s beyond me.” The person consumed by discrimination morally subjugates himself or herself, as a matter of principle, to the person free of it, leaving the person free of it with the moral high ground. Demonstrating kindness to those who have treated you cruelly is an act of moral supremacy. It is the most powerful of human exercises, because in so doing, you conquer the self and diminish your enemy."
“It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
Charles Blow (a lesson before dying - after Mandela's death) NY Times 2013